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What is it about sexy doctors and nurses that turns us on so much?

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David Letterman gets married after 23 years of singledom-Men and commitment phobias

  Spring must be in the air. Harrison Ford that that perpetually skinny actress Calista Flockhart have decided to made it official, as hass Bruce Willis and his main squeeze, Victoria Secret model Emma Heming (listed on the list of the top 100 of the world's hottest women). Now long time bachelor and late night curmudgeon David Letterman has tied the knot after 10 years of dating. His long time partner 
Regina Lasko, the mother of his 5-year-old son, got hitched in a courthouse ceremony near their Montana ranch, Letterman announced during the taping of his CBS "Late Show" yesterday.

"Regina and I began dating in February of 1986, and I said, 'Well, things are going pretty good, let's just see what happens in about 10 years,'" joked Letterman.

“I had avoided getting married pretty good for, like, 23 years, and I — honestly, whether this happened or not — I secretly felt that men who were married admired me ... like I was the last of the real gunslingers, you know what I'm saying?'" he said.

As I was doing some research for an article for an upcoming bridal show, it seems that men have a very push-pull attitude when it comes to taking the big plunge.  For many guys, the very thought of making a commitment to one woman for the rest of their lives is enough to send them sprinting for the hills. The dreaded "C-word" implies compromise, loss of independence, the sacrifice of sexual variety, and the looming specter of financial devastation if they've been divorced before.

Another cool sex and relationship survey - this time from my friends
at Rutgers University, men today are overwhelmingly apprehensive about getting married. A couple of the guys I pooled informally (okay I asked my brother, a few patients, and the male  dental hygienist at the dentist today), what would scare them about marriage. The honest ones spoke of the looming disappointment of sexual exclusivity and the loss of freedom. I've said it before, men are attracted at the most basic level to sexual newness. Sleeping with only one woman for life can be scary when presented with life's buffet of redhead's and brunette's. Getting past that fear of loss of independence, freedom, space and losing that schmorgesborg of sexual bounties (even if it is only in their heads) is scary. I've long thought as a marriage counselor, that many a relationship could be saved by having a marital "recess". A get-out-of-jail-free time when you could play for a month long trip with the boys, wild orgies, or solitude without hassle might stop many a guy from hedging when presented with the thought of matching left hand rings.

But there must still be something positive about the institution of marriage. If it can get a confirmed bachelor like Letterman to the alter, maybe there are more guys out there ready to take the plunge.

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Volcano sex (like this morning in Alaska). Why volcanic eruptions are hot.

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I've been thinking about volcano's this weekend. Partly because of the news of Alaska's Mount Redoubt volcano erupting four times overnight, for the volcano's first emission in nearly 20 years.  I just happen to think volcano's are very sexual. You know what I mean. Big, bad boys, that blow hot and dangerous, and erupt spewing a geyser of hot liquid when they get aroused enough. The sexual imagery is clearly strong. 

Reseach on sexual trace minerals claims that the populations with the highest virility (still getting it up and producing motile sperm over 100 years of age) all live next to volcanos. Apparently the mineral content of the water, and food grown in volcanic soil keep those small blood vessels clean the longest. Volcanic dwellers apparently have great sex.

Friends of ours travelled recently to the Big Island of Hawaii, and stayed overnight at a private B & B on the side of an active volcano. They were over on the weekend and described the highlight of their recent trip to Hawaii. They stayed at the only house left standing in a field of green surrounded on all sides by molten lava. It was the sole surviving premises after every one of it's neighbours were washed away or vapourized in 1200 degree lava during the big eruption in 1982. Our friends, were informed by the helicopter pilot that Jack's lava house takes on guests, they immediately made arrangements for Jack to meet them, and guide them up the mountain for the 5 mile hike over lava rock besides magma rivers to his B & B.   As they were telling the story about the vanishing boulders, I kept thinking it would be a great place to dispose of bodies. Unrecoverable, instantly vaporized, with no traces left - dropping a body into lava could be the perfect crime.  But I digress.

With no power, Jack on the mountain is entirely self sufficient, living alone on a active volcano that can send lava travelling at close to 30 miles per hour. They had an amazing view of the flares of lava around them, and said they had the most memorable sex of thier lives that night looking at the volcano and surrounding Pacific Ocean. She said "the earth literally moved, and it was incredibly hot"...

I love having sex in interesting and slightly risky places. I think most women do. And I've had my share of intimate ski hills, walks in the woodsboffing,  and water play.  But I can't top that story of heated, volcano sex. I hope the Alaskans are having great, rumbly sex up north this morning, in the shadow of their very turned-on volcano.     

What's new at Hedonism II in Negril, Jamaica - an updated review March 2009

We had dinner last week with a group of people wearing an x-rated Minnie Mouse costume, and a Donald the Duck costume that came complete with a feathered appendage. Nobody batted an eye, or did anything more than tweak Minnie’s slightly lopsided ears. The Minnie and Donald in questions were two of over 400 “Fluffernutters” that descended on Hedonism II in Negril

Jamaica

this March.  The theme that night was “naughty Disney”, and if we had ever wondered what Snow White would look if she “drifted” that question was forever answered by another woman wondering by.

 

How do we explain the happy, but uniqueness that is Hedonism II - the legendary Superclub resort? Forget what you’ve heard, Hedonism II is appropriate for your adults-only, or girls getaway vacation with a relaxed, inclusive crowd comfortable in their own skins. Try it, it is the sensuous vacation that lets you adventure at your own speed.  

 

On arguably one of the best beaches in the

Caribbean

, Hedo II is the safest place to be sexually silly on the planet. By safest we mean that you can have a vacation from tame to completely crazy, without anyone exposing you, pressuring you, to do anything outside your comfort level. An atmosphere of tolerance permeates the grounds.  Along the spectacular beach at Hedo II is a complete ecosystem of sexual culture. And who doesn’t want to be in the know? At least to watch the antics, and to say you had the opportunity to dip your toe in the water? You can spend a week on the “prude side, adjacent, and in view of Sandals Negril reading a book, drinking the famous and frothy “Hummingbird drinks”, in a bathing suit and wrap. If you stay to yourselves on that end of the beach, you might never see and experience anything more daring than the occasional nudist slipping by before a guard hands them a towel.  You can have a vacation free of kids, with great weather and affordable prices and never do anything more risqué than hold hands. As you move down the beach you can go topless (or not), and be slightly more likely to see exposed body parts in various shapes and sizes if you know where to look.  But you need not do anything other than watch the turquoise ocean and see the pelicans flying over head if your idea of sexuality is tied up in sitting quietly with your partner. Finally, as you cross onto the nude side (and the sign warns of no photography- or clothes are permitted), you can see or participate in playful conversation with naked people. The mantra of any native Jamaican you meet is to bang fists with you in greetings, is “Respect”. And respect, without a doubt, is the underlying tone of Hedonism II.

 

Hedonism has had a bad wrap of being nothing but sex, and has been a victim of stories that have become larger than life. It isn’t about single men – the people who have the best time are happily married couples, and single women. We think it is the best place around for couples to reconnect or for women to go to discover her groove. We also think every women should celebrate her divorce, bachelor party, or experience the liberating safety of Hedonism once in her lifetime. Nothing happens that you haven’t invited to happen, and new people (and especially new women) are protected and charmed by a Hedo alumni that have been gathering for 30 plus years.

 

Such it is with groups like The Fluffernutters. The ‘nutters, like many of the naked travel groups that frequent Hedo II, can be defined as “a travel group that meets bi-annually to drink, sunbath , vacation, and laugh-out loud together. The “fluff’s” makes up x rated songs to popular lyrics in the piano bar every night, plays “capture the flag “ on opposing catamarans – dressed as pirates, and dresses up to giggle at each other. Other groups frequent throughout the year, but we enjoyed hanging around the “fluffs”, who all had hats, t-shirts, and beaded necklaces portraying their names.  We’ve described Hedonism in a previous article, as “Tropical summer camp for grown-ups”, and that description still holds true. There are other groups with names like Go Classy, and the Bubbly Bares, so if you are looking for a community who get it with that twisted sense of humor that appeals to positive people who smile at you with an occasional well meaning leer, than you might love the connections you can make at a place like Hedonism II.

 

Hedonism is the “grand dame” of nude and sensuously tolerant resorts, and had become tired in recent years. This visit however, we saw a number of changes happening that are worth reporting. The first is that Kevin Levee, the General Manager that looked after Hedo II during it’s heyday in the 90’s has returned. He brings along a new Executive Chef, Randie Anderson who trained in

Manhattan

, and was most recently at the Miami Sheraton. We noticed a change in the food from his first day on the job. Without an executive chef for awhile, Hedonism’s food had slipped, but we felt our tummies rumble at the upcoming food choices Randie had proposed in his new menus.  Kevin took the top three guest frustrations, lack of towels, lousy disco music, and too few chairs on the nude side, and fixed them immediately. We see his influence in empowering his staff to help guests where ever they can, and the atmosphere at Hedonism II is humming.  There is the feeling that hedonism II has been neglected and time, attention and resources are going to be thrown her way.  

Couples Swept Away Resorts, Negril Jamaica - a great place to "Feel the Love"

 

Creative marriage proposals at Couples Swept Away Resort,

By Sue McGarvie, and Blaik Spratt, Relationship Therapists, Syndicated Talk Show Hosts, Authors of The Ethical Hedonist  radioshrink@rogers.com

When you picture the most romantic place on earth to propose where do you think of? The Eiffel Tower

? Moonlight in Venice? We had heard of some typically quaint but corny marriage proposals that include the videotron at hockey games, or the overdone, “ring-on-the-rose-stem” proposal. As die hard romantics who regularly speak at the bridal shows, we are always interested in smart proposal stories.  On a recent trip to Couples Swept Away in Negril, Jamaicawe saw a succinct, but elegant proposal that combined a warm, windswept Caribbeanevening, with a new way to ask for your sweetie’s hand in marriage. For guys, the goal is a memorable, yet idiot-proof proposal that allows her to be moved to tears in private. 

Imagine a perfect evening on vacation away from the stresses of life, where you surprise the object of your affection with a private dinner on the beach. Serenaded by saxophone leading two piece band, you have a five course meal served by an unobtrusive waiter. The smell of hibiscus is in the air. As the fruit and dessert plate gets presented, you lift up the cover and carved in the melon centerpiece are the words “Will you marry me?” Creative, unique, and you don’t have to do anything beyond a quick email and a credit card number in setting it up.

Couples Swept Away is a spectacular all-inclusive resort in the middle of Negril’s famous 7 mile beach, and one of the four Couples resorts in

Jamaica

. They are all adult only resorts, and are known for their emphasis on magical, romantic vacations. Couples is a mixture of wellness and decadence set on one of the best beaches in all the

Caribbean

. Complete with the requisite white sand, turquoise water, hot weather and starry nights.

There is a top notch athletic facility and spa, along with juice and veggy bars for couples wanting to take care of themselves on vacation. Tennis, swimming, squash, water sports, yoga, aerobics, a serious weight-training gym, and healthy snacks strategically placed in case you need to keep your blood sugar up, Couples Swept Away had the most complete fitness and wellness component of any high end adult resort we’ve ever been to.

The resort as a whole is safe, and open minded. The beach is well patrolled, and very clean. The three other Couples locations all have private nude beaches on property- or in the case of the Couples resorts in Ocho Rios – a completely nude island. Couples Swept Away doesn’t have a nude section, but the Negril beach has been known since the 60’s for tolerance to being topless, so smooching with your sweetie under a beach hut would only be looked at with an indulgent smile by the hotel.

The facilities are truly elegant, beautifully maintained, and what is noticeable about this resort is the serious attention to detail. The ownership is local, and on site, and it shows. From the elegant staff clothing designs, to the unique lobby furnishing – it is evident that the staff and management are paying attention to the little things we often see missing in other resorts.  The turned down beds, along with Jamaican expressions printed on small cards on the pillow at bedtime we a lovely touch. A full size compliment of liquors in the in-room bar, flowers in the room, a wrap around porch, and special toiletries are a few examples of extras that are of course, all inclusive. A number of the rooms don’t have a television (in keeping with the romantic “get away from it all” theme), but will leave you a selection of reading material and music to help you connect. And with a strict no-tipping policy, you don’t have to worry about money anytime during your vacation.

Having been to a number of resorts in Jamaica, and being used to the happy, smiling people – Jamaicans are some of the most musical and lyrical people on the planet – we met a number at Couples Swept Away that stood out from anything we had seen anywhere. The employees we absolutely delightful to meet.  We conversed with a range of staff from the crossing guard to the receptionist to the general manager at Couples Swept Away. All of them genuinely seemed to feel that “they worked for the best  resort in all of

Jamaica

.” The staff were empowered to make guests happy, and were rewarded for solving a problem with a guest- even if it took them away from their regular duties.  The piano bar is famous, and interactive and becomes the place “where everyone quickly learns your name.”  

The Couples resort seems to have two major mandates. One is to emphasize romance in all forms, and they work hard to convince you to fall in love, propose, get married, honeymoon and spend your anniversaries there. They take romance seriously. Their goal is to make you feel all that schmushy, lovey, eye-gazing stuff that lovers rarely get a chance to experience between the kids, laundry, and work deadlines. Think rose petals on the beds, chocolate fountains, and spectacular sunsets. Couples is an outstanding place to have one of those simple, yet special beach weddings that save you the thousands of dollars in feeding extended relatives when you get married conventionally at home. So if you are planning on eloping down south to get hitched on the beach, give Couples Swept Away a serious look. Couples Swept Away is also appropriate for anyone else who might come down and share in the nuptials (we met grandparents and crazy brothers-in laws in the wedding party who all seemed happy with the resort). A good mix of decorum for extended family, but not too sleepy or staid if you are hoping for some hopping night life. It isn’t party central like a few of the Negril resorts, but it is five minutes from the infamous Rick’s Café (home of the legendary cliff divers) which is rated as one of the top 10 bars in the world, and always has colorful night life. With a full time department dedicated to weddings, and a large property, we witnessed a number of bridal parties at different times during our stay.

The other goal at Couples is to turn every visitor into a repeat guest. They consistently rank second (behind Hedonism) for the highest recidivism (return) rates in

Jamaica

. We met people there on this visit who had been to Swept Away over 25 times. As a repeat guest, you get a special shirt, a package of extras at check-in, and an invitation to attend a repeaters dinner with all the staff and management, who make a fuss over you. A separate cocktail party invites the newcomers to a meet and greet, but it is with repeat vacationers, that Couples spends a huge amount of time and attention on.     

We had a few experiences that stood out at Couples Swept Away. Many of the other all -inclusives throughout the

Caribbean

have a sameness about them, but this one is truly five star. Two fabulous restaurants (one Continental, and the other Thai), had meals that rivaled the best a la carte restaurants in French St. Martin, and was the best meal we had on holiday this year. A martini bar, lots of different beach foods including a health hut, fabulous burgers and Jamaican jerk chicken, and a rum punch (that will have you singing in no time) fleshed out the other food and beverage highlights. However, like elsewhere in

Jamaica

the music blew us away.  The evening dinner band included a tight reggae quartet from

Kingston

that you would have happily paid for. Our favorite moment was at an early morning breakfast buffet at their main restaurant. A duo of acoustic guitarist and cello player strummed up popular songs while we ordered at the smoothie bar. Lincoln the guitar player, smiled and nodded while he played with his cello partner. In very  short order most of the restaurant had stopped eating to appreciate the music flowing through these two guys. They were that good. It brought a whole restaurant of people together as we all made eye contact to see if everyone else was as impressed as we were with the live, breakfast music.

Compared to some of the other adult-only resorts we’ve reviewed Couples Swept Away is tame, but they nail their demographic of couples 25-55 who are looking for a safe, upscale romantic vacation.  With an emphasis on health, the resort has almost a “clean cut” feel to it -the wholesome side of adult-only vacations. Try as we might (and we did look for faults), we really had no complaints with our stay. All the guests we spoke to raved about it, and we were sad to leave.  With a tremendous occupancy rate (Couples Negril, five minutes down the road couldn’t show us a sample room as they were at 100% occupied for the next five weeks) despite difficult economic times.  Couple’s  guests come primarily from the United States, Canada, Britain, Germanyand Italy

, and were mainly in their 30’s and 40’s. With a 40% return rate, this resort seems almost recession proof, and is a testament to their great service, food, location and facilities. Expect to pay USD $4000 a couple per week (although there are some deals to be had on off weeks online), but everything from catamaran trips and 10 minute beach massages were free. So other than golf (also included) or the full spa services, (the spa was in a beautiful building, and did a brisk business with brides and couples massages) you should have no need to go off property or pay for anything else on your romantic week. Couples Swept Away is the relaxing, romantic, effortless, wonderful

Caribbean

honeymoon vacation (no matter if you are newly-wed, renewing your vows, or just checking in with each other.) It  recharges anybody’s relationship.

 

  

Why women who watch PBS, wildlife documentaries, and work lots are the best in bed

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Another week, another cool sex survey. I guess psychology students would rather study sex than other boring topics in industrial or sports psychology.  This one talks about how people who watch a lot of public television have more sex than those who don't. Same with those hot,workaholic women that work more than 60 hours a week. Somehow they fit in time on their backs. Smile

 According to a study in the February issue of American Demographics magazine, these findings,  as part of a national survey of nearly 10,000 people, show that, there's a lot less sex going on than you might guess. On average, people reported 58 sexual "episodes" a year, just more than one a week. Agh! Once a week? Which is why you need to find partners who like the history and discovery channels. "You and me baby ain't nothing but mammals so let's do it..."

It must be close to the end of the college school year as another survey I was sourced for today came out in the National Post. They asked second year students about what is "normal" and "abnormal" sexual behaviour. Apparently, both men and women still think it still isn't cool for women to have lots of partners, but women can be more sexually adventurous (more anal or threesomes) than guys can. Although men is is socially more normal (according to these students) for guys to have had a bunch of previous partners. And I keep hoping that the double standard goes away and both men and women have as much or as little of sex as they want. I'll source the survey when the story gets posted this week. In the meantime, watch out for those nerdy science girls who work hardest. They are probably the best in bed.